PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

SERIES 4

SEX DURING MENSTRUATION

Some women start their monthly menstrual period few days before or even on their wedding day. This could be understood. They are under pressure and depression because of the wedding preparation. Anxiety is known to induce menstruation so; it is not surprising that some women tied the nuptial knot with blood on. Does it mean that menstruation constitutes itself as a road block to sexual intercourse on the first night?

Our culture has a lot of taboo associated with blood and women in blood. It is believed that no man should go near his wife during her period. Reason been that she is unclean and any man that touches her cannot enter the place of worship without spiritual cleansing. Some believed that such union could lead to having imbecile child. It is also believed that such men will lose their spiritual powers that may make their enemies prevail over them. God has redeemed us for all kinds of purification problems through Christ Jesus. Therefore, menstruation is not a road block for sexual intercourse; the blood even serves as lubricant to make easy access in. Some women also testified to enjoying sex at such times. This is because intercourse can cause easy flow of the blood which in turn brings relief to their entire body system.

Women that found themselves in this situation are encouraged to give in to their husbands demand at such a point in time. Menstruation should not be a barrier to achieving the long awaited hope and expectation. It is not a road block but pathway to ease and comfort for a pleasant sexual satisfaction in your first night.

However, the following need be looked into with respect blood stain;-

1.    The woman menstrual pain. During this period, women undergo pains and it differs from one woman to another. Some women have serious menstrual pain. You need to know if she can cope. Some, at such times, have serious stomach pain while some are completely down physically and psychologically. The psychological aspect is what you can help her overcome. But please, be careful to understand the physical aspect of the pain; do not injure your wife on your first night.

2.    The man psychological and emotional feelings. How is the man able to cope in the presence of fresh blood? Is the man irritated? Can he withstand it? The ability of each man to cope differs. It means therefore that the extent to which you enjoy the sexual intercourse depends on the level of the ability of the man to cope in such a situation.

3.    The blood stain. The two must be prepared for the blood stain all around their private parts and on the bed. This means that they should get a bedspread which does not retain stain or get a small cloth which they can put just at the bed area of the intercourse. The two should immediately clean up after sex.

Sexual intercourse during menstruation has more of emotional effect than physical, medical and spiritual effects. If the two can overcome whatever psychological / emotional feelings, they will definitely enjoy it.

Enjoy yourselves.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES. SERIES 3

SERIES 3

WISDOM FOR VIRGINS

Virginity is what the bible teaches for the unmarried. You are now matured and ready to disvirgined. You are in the right place with the right person.

Many good mothers create in their daughters’ fear of sexual intercourse. They do this with good intention. This was done to keep such daughter from pre – marital sex. Little did the parents know that their prescribed dose has its negative effect on these girls as they go into marriage. Such girls need an antidote from this implanted fear as they are preparing for their wedding.

The first step towards victory and enjoying your home and your sexual intercourse with your spouse is to cast away fear of pain and displeasure you have ignorantly psychologically associated with sex. Sex is a gift of God in marriage. It is time to enjoy this. Do not allow fear to spoil your day. The lord is honouring you, so why do you have to fear? Perfect love casts out fear. Now that you are in marriage bed, replace fear with perfect love for your spouse.

As you prepare for your marriage get some good books which you can read and be willing to ask questions from matured people around you. Be sure to implement your gathered information when you are married.

For virgin, sex can be painful at the beginning, therefore it is advisable that before sexual intercourse for the two of you to lubricate your organs and their surroundings. This means that as you pack your bibles and other devotional materials for your honey moon, you should get good lubricants preferably Vaseline or olive oil along with you. This lubrication should be a continuous process until the two are sure the pain is gone or manageable.

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

I bet you can think of at least one man who has intention to stay single and even shunned what could have been a great relationship with amazing woman just because he didn’t want a “serious relationship.”

But then, just a few weeks or months later, that man met another woman. And within just a few weeks with this new woman he was completely sprung and head over heels for her… and he was begging HER for a committed relationship.

Fascinating…

If you’re like most women, then you’ve seen several men you know do this “instant switch” thing where all of a sudden they want a serious relationship, even though all they could talk about before was being “on their own.”

Here’s the reality: Most men are never “ready” for a relationship… not until they feel the magical feelings and experiences with a woman that tell them “Hey, this is the woman for me.”

“For a man, the connection he feels with a woman early on can have nothing to do with whether or not he wants a relationship with her.”

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

I bet you can think of at least one man who has intention to stay single and even shunned what could have been a great relationship with amazing woman just because he didn’t want a “serious relationship.”

But then, just a few weeks or months later, that man met another woman. And within just a few weeks with this new woman he was completely sprung and head over heels for her… and he was begging HER for a committed relationship.

Fascinating…

If you’re like most women, then you’ve seen several men you know do this “instant switch” thing where all of a sudden they want a serious relationship, even though all they could talk about before was being “on their own.”

Here’s the reality: Most men are never “ready” for a relationship… not until they feel the magical feelings and experiences with a woman that tell them “Hey, this is the woman for me.”

“For a man, the connection he feels with a woman early on can have nothing to do with whether or not he wants a relationship with her.”

The Art of Seduction

The Art of Seduction

The immediate temptation of anyone who hears the word seduction is to quickly associate it with love – making; the art of seduction is by no means the only purpose to which seduction can be put.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, there is something in our nature as human beings that make us, naturally, seducers. Many people will hold the assertion in dispute; but a moment of careful thought is likely to make us see seduction in the right perspective. By my standard, the business person who dons his best attire on the occasion of a business appointment likely to turn his or her fortunes around for good is practicing seduction. The politician who uses banners, posters, audio – visual interviews, and rhythmical campaign slogans; the advertiser who uses hilarious radio jingles to advertise his products; the movie house that whets our appetite with bits and pieces of gripping scenes in its movies; the car manufacturer who designs his car to look sleek, solid and heavenly; the product manufacturer who wraps his products in colourful packages; and many more other people are all busily practicing The Art of Seduction.

By using methods that had been successfully employed by charmers like Don Juan, Giovanni Casanova, Marylyn Monroe, napoleon Bonaparte, Cleopatra, Bathsheba, Bill Clinton, Benjamin Disraeli, Rasputin, Madonna, and our Goodluck Jonathan the author shows us how we can wield influence that continues to keep us in demand for as long as we live.

Our Almighty Father, also use the seduction method through our lord Jesus Christ who bought us from the camp of the evil one by shedding HIS blood on the cross of Calvary. He gave us life in abundance and we now have access to God through our lord Jesus Christ. Through him, man now has access to God.

Should we use this art, this secret, for man or material? This question is best answered by the man or woman who decides to learn and use The Art of Seduction. I will suggest we apply this principle to our everyday life and in whatever capacity we find ourselves to touch a life effectively and positively for God.

As for me, I find this book interesting and a lifetime treasure that must not be out of sight. I have started to apply it to my life. Look for the book, read and start to apply it to your life.

Adeyeye Kayode

Book reviewer

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HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PRE MARITAL SEX

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PRE MARITAL SEX

What is premarital sex?

This can be defined as sex before marriage. It is about a thrill, a momentary pleasure without a loving relationship. It is not a solution to feeling unloved, unwanted, abandoned, rejected, depressed and loneliness. It only complicates issues of life.

Religious view about premarital sex

Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled for God will judge both whoremongers (fornicator) and adulterer. Hebrew 13:4, 1^st Corinthians 6:18-20.

Effects of premarital sex

1. Death via abortion. When you engage in unwanted sex and it result into pregnancy. The last option to those persons is abortion and it brings about death.
2. Disgrace. Unwanted pregnancy brings disgrace to the girl involved in premarital sex.
3. Sex addict. Once you taste sex it will turns you to a sex holic in the society.
4. Stain and loneliness. Once you get yourself involved in premarital sex, people get to know you and they all will stay away from you. Loneliness will naturally kill you.
5. Rejection. No man will want to marry you because you are sex holic even the society will reject you.
6. God will be angry with you and you will not be his child any more.

How to abstain from premarital sex

1. Experience new birth or salvation in Jesus Christ. When you have an encounter with Christ, he will recreate and transform your life to live above sin.
2. Avoid seducing a man through your dressing therefore always dress modestly and decently.
3. Avoid having an encounter with pornographic films, romantic books or novels and magazine this is because what you see affects how you behave and you behave affects what you become
4. Do not succumb to peer group pressure
5. Avoid body fondling, kissing, pecking and necking when dating
6. Always flee from all appearances of evil
7. Do not engage in dating until you are physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, mentally matured and ready
8. Always exercise self control over your emotions
9. Avoid wrong association or bad company for “ evil communication corrupts good manner”
10.  Avoid staying alone with your intended spouse late to the night
11.  Avoid sleeping with your intended spouse in the same room before marriage
12.  Always subject your flesh under the spirit of God by dwelling on the word of god everyday
13. Ensure that true love is the foundation for your relationship and love guides, protects, cares and hates sin

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