INTRODUCTION
When it comes to building a Christian home, many people found it difficult to discuss about SEX. Some even see it as a taboo in this part of the world. And because sex is not well handled, many homes have been destroyed too early in their marriages.
It is obvious that many parents and ministers of God fail to give the necessary balanced counsel on the issue of sexuality to young folks, out of the fear of “encouraging them to go into immorality. They only told them is about sinful intimacy and its grave consequences, avoiding fornicating, adultery e.t.c. When the time comes for the young folks to start enjoying sex in their homes, they do not have the practical knowledge and discretion needed to handle this new phase of life.
Therefore, this topic will run in series to help young couples solve some initial sexual problems they might face as young couples and it will make a good read for older couples who want a new beginning in their relationships. Please go through each series for better understanding.
SERIES 1
THE FIRST NIGHT
(Proverb 5:18)
It is always believed that first impression matters much. The way you handle your first night matters so much. You have a blessed fountain, a fountain sanctified and given to you by the lord, God, your father. This fountain is given to your for enjoyment as you rejoice with your new “honey”. This first night is a blessed night of light, deliverance and joy that lasts till eternity.
Like in the beginning of any great endeavour, you need a great deal of wisdom. This is the first night of building your own home. Obedience is the only key that keeps your home on the rock for life and eternity. This night is a night of unveiling your nakedness and that of your spouse. You have been beholding the beauty/ handsomeness of each other undercover before now. Tonight, you want to behold each other as God created you naked.
The first night, you both will go to the beginning where nakedness brought joy and satisfaction to the men and his wife. This journey this night required patience and understanding which are rooted in deep love. It follows suit the following steps;-
Step 1:- husband, patiently unveil your wife of everything called cover. Remove “everything she is wearing. Some sisters at this point are embarrassed so , be patient with your wife. Some men rush into this, in order to enter into the sexual act, it is not good, do not rush, she is yours forever. Take time to examine every part you uncover and appreciate the lord for each.
Step2:- now verbalized your thought. You can say something like” i accept you as you are, you are a part of me and i will always love you. You are a gift to me, babe girl you are good”. What can you say about your wife in relation to you? Say them now with wisdom.
Step3:- the wife then in turn uncovers her husband. I mean remove everything called cover or traditional material for beauty or makeup if you are a virgin, you probably have not seen many various sizes of penis before, so , accept in love whatever you see and appreciate the lord for it.
Step4:- the wife should hold her husband and verbalizes her thoughts. You can say something like “oh! I accept you as mine. I’m a part of you, you are mine for life and i accept you as a gift from the lord”
Step5:- hold yourselves in love
Step6:- you can immediately seal up your union with sex. Your oneness starts from your acceptance, open heartedness and sexual intercourse, rejoice with the wife of your youth ....... let her breasts satisfy you at all times.
Moreover, by now the man must have successfully inserted his penis into your virginal. This means you “know” your spouse.
The man should take time to allow his penis to make some movement. This contact will produced sweet sensation for the two.
It is worthy to note here that both or either party can be tired after the stressful wedding ceremony, it is suggested that rest is important and the couple should have their rest”. The act should last for life because marriage is “till death do us part”.
