In continuation on the series I have been running on practical solutions to sexual problems of young couples, I will discuss the next in the series which series six – SEX AFTER DELIVERY.
At this junction, God has answered the prayer that was said on the wedding day which was for fruitfulness for the union. Now the first fruit has come. This is coming with its own challenges that need knowledge, understanding and wisdom to handle them.
After the delivery of the baby, medical knowledge tells us not to have coitus (sex) till after six weeks. These weeks will help the woman physiologically to have her various organs receive strength for restoration. They are simply the weeks of healing and restoration.
Some men find it difficult to wait for six weeks. So they find solution to this challenge outside their home and outside their wife. It is a SIN. Such men are joining themselves with strange women, so they should not be surprised if they experience strange curses. Be warned! Proverbs 7:24-27.
In order to avoid this, spouses can continue to enjoy their sexual intercourse within these six weeks except for coitus in the first two to three weeks. Remember, sexual intercourse is not all about coitus. It is enjoying totality of the sexuality of your spouse.
You need to be conscious of the wellbeing of the woman. As a man, be sure you are not hurting her physically, psychologically and otherwise. On the other hand, many women use the arrival of the baby to cover up their lack of cooperation. Some of them are actually interested in sexual intercourse for the purpose of child bearing. Now that the baby has come, a prove of fruitfulness, such women no longer allows the husband to have access to them. This is totally WRONG! As a couple, the baby is a blessing from God, therefore we should allow the devil to use to scatter or mar the union. Be sincere to each other because insincerity can bring disunity in the home. Also do not build your home on ignorance, seek knowledge and live in the truth.
Many women shift attention and affections from their husband to the new born baby. This is deception on the highest order. It will interest to know that the baby will grow and leave you. You will be left alone with your abandoned husband. If you miss the time you need to learnt together with your spouse and grow together as couple you will later regret it. It is my advice that you should never share your spouse’s love and attention with your children for any reason. The children have their place, place them there!
Adeyeye Michael A
Love turns the world around
