Conscious Mating: Is This the Right Relationship for Me?

A successful relationship

Before making a commitment in a relationship, or "prior commitment" stage, offers the possibility of their future as confident as possible to choose.

You are a pioneer

You are the pioneer life. And if you read this, it is likely that further relations pioneer, free themselves from past patterns and conscious relationship. As a pioneer in terms of its target in full awareness of the long-term impact of their decisions and the date and the second with the conscious intention. They are determined to create the life and relationship you really want, and I think that can happen to true love and respect only when you find what you really want and not go for anything less.

Everyone starts their journey to a successful life and partnership in order to achieve tasks such as man. If the date and possibly someone to a relationship that is very exciting to see join, but at the same time, most know the question, "Is this the right relationship for me?" and what I call the "pre-commitment" a relationship. The journey from a successful to a conscious couple, as long as the bride and groom become what I call "link aware." Just as a consciousness must be clear who you are, what you want and how to get it, so be aware of a couple. As challenging as it is for the correct decisions in the long-term relationship when you're alone do, maybe too good decisions on long-term relationship, even if difficult to make a pre-commitment.

WHAT IS THE pre-commitment?

In the selection of couples in the world today, most at a certain level, they ask: "Is 'The One' Should I be using this person for the rest of my life?" They are an exclusive couple, but not yet committed.

It may be tempting to call these couples before marriage "believe as a collective term for all couples who have not the leap to a commitment made are made. However, we have the mentality of a couple before marriage that is very different from the mentality of Pre-commitment: "We get married, do" "Is this the right relationship for me?

The first shows the pre-commitment and began to approach, recognized the work with these couples, I develop to this stage, unless otherwise known as "before marriage", but not, as I call it. The label "pre-commitment" should be temporary, but stayed. I was surprised by the lack of recognition, information and resources for this phase of the relationship between general and expert research and literature. Even today, when this phenomenon is a common practice in our culture was largely unknown to the general public, I hope to change with articles like this.

TWO Pre-commitment

Pre-committed couples are generally divided into two categories:

Unconscious, usually after the "mini-marriage" model for the treatment of the relationship without really what requires the commitment. The separation of fact and attitude.

"If Is this the right relationship for me I am making a commitment?" CONSCIOUS-aware that they have not committed mostly commitment as a goal, ask an approximation of the actual and attitude.

Romantic love and pre-commitment

There are many misconceptions about love. Our culture glorifies the stage of the relationship of romantic love in literature, theatre, television and movies. The initial phase of infatuation in a relationship that is in the chemistry going and we experience euphoria. Powerful neurotransmitters, such as amphetamines, floods and change the chemistry of our brain.

During phase untenable romantic love is an important goal because it gives us an idea of ​​our being better and more efficient. If the relationship proves to be a good choice for long-term bonds this time together and prepare for the inevitable storms of life in the face. Do not confuse this early stage romantic love is a real and lasting mistake that can be our undoing.

We want and expect to be happy, and romantic love is forever optimistic. We do not want to believe that when we experience this intense chemistry with someone who does not work. We avoid the pain of failure and perhaps trying trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, trying to turn us into a pretzel, "make" a working relationship.

In today's world, when choosing partners, to go blind in a couple of immediate acceptance. Most new couples' pre-commitment "that they are a couple from, but have not yet decided the future of their relationship. This period coincides with romantic love, and realizes that understanding media partners, the relationship that they recognize the need to know each other long enough to disappear in the love and the experience of reality, before irrevocable decisions in the long run.

KNOWN LINK - a radical position

Here is the real radical rupture relations. How to prevent hard as we try and fail to avoid the relationship anyway. For there are many unconscious forces at work in all phases of a relationship, although we recognize that it is not easy and the results can not control... These unconscious forces have the potential to undermine our efforts to keep the love, if we are not aware of.

Conscious of mating, rather than thinking unconsciously romantic fantasies of living happily ever after, we accept this truth. As relations are broken anyway, why not be as aware as possible in the process and increases our chances of success?

CHOOSE YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES

Every relationship has problems. This is normal and does not mean that there is something that is wrong with their relationship. Some problems can be solved and can be addressed and resolved, others are open continuously. Before making a commitment in a relationship, or "prior commitment" stage, offers you the opportunity to decide their future, as objectively as possible.

You can use the pre-commitment to a relationship in order to identify the challenges and solve problems without a solution in this regard. You can then accept a conscious choice and decide to live with them or to sabotage the long-term viability of their relationship and walk at the same time I can down with much less pain and costs on the road. Pre-commitment in an exclusive relationship that has not yet committed. This gives you the opportunity to determine whether this relationship fits your needs and requirements for successful long-term relationship before making a commitment. Useful with the pre-conscious commitment to long-term options.

Prevention of pain

Even if you feel the pain of the break in the pre-commitment, it prevents you from feeling pain again in the future.

Make a conscious decision as possible before making a commitment, in our opinion, a gift of the prevention of pain you can afford. As difficult as it is, the decision to end a relationship, you will be the devastation that will surely experience will save the end of a mini-marriage or divorce, especially when it comes to making children.

If you're in a relationship that did not commit, nor are and ask, "Is this the right relationship for me?" I encourage you to have a choice in the long-term relationship in life and relationship you really want before they make a commitment to results. We must recognize the possibility that his current relationship is not "The One". Therefore, I suggest that you seek clarity about what they really want and need in a relationship and if your current relationship will live the life you love with the love of his life.