Practical solutions to sexual problems of young couples Series SEX AFTER DELIVERY

                 

In continuation on the series I have been running on practical solutions to sexual problems of young couples, I will discuss the next in the series which series six – SEX AFTER DELIVERY.

At this junction, God has answered the prayer that was said on the wedding day which was for fruitfulness for the union. Now the first fruit has come. This is coming with its own challenges that need knowledge, understanding and wisdom to handle them.

After the delivery of the baby, medical knowledge tells us not to have coitus (sex) till after six weeks. These weeks will help the woman physiologically to have her various organs receive strength for restoration. They are simply the weeks of healing and restoration.

Some men find it difficult to wait for six weeks. So they find solution to this challenge outside their home and outside their wife. It is a SIN. Such men are joining themselves with strange women, so they should not be surprised if they experience strange curses. Be warned! Proverbs 7:24-27.

In order to avoid this, spouses can continue to enjoy their sexual intercourse within these six weeks except for coitus in the first two to three weeks. Remember, sexual intercourse is not all about coitus. It is enjoying totality of the sexuality of your spouse.

You need to be conscious of the wellbeing of the woman. As a man, be sure you are not hurting her physically, psychologically and otherwise.  On the other hand, many women use the arrival of the baby to cover up their lack of cooperation. Some of them are actually interested in sexual intercourse for the purpose of child bearing. Now that the baby has come, a prove of fruitfulness, such women no longer allows the husband to have access to them. This is totally WRONG!  As a couple, the baby is a blessing from God, therefore we should allow the devil to use to scatter or mar the union. Be sincere to each other because insincerity can bring disunity in the home. Also do not build your home on ignorance, seek knowledge and live in the truth.

Many women shift attention and affections from their husband to the new born baby. This is deception on the highest order. It will interest to know that the baby will grow and leave you. You will be left alone with your abandoned husband. If you miss the time you need to learnt together with your spouse and grow together as couple you will later regret it. It is my advice that you should never share your spouse’s love and attention with your children for any reason. The children have their place, place them there!

Adeyeye Michael A

Love turns the world around

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

INTRODUCTION

When it comes to building a Christian home, many people found it difficult to discuss about SEX. Some even see it as a taboo in this part of the world. And because sex is not well handled, many homes have been destroyed too early in their marriages.

It is obvious that many parents and ministers of God fail to give the necessary balanced counsel on the issue of sexuality to young folks, out of the fear of “encouraging them to go into immorality. They only told them is about sinful intimacy and its grave consequences, avoiding fornicating, adultery e.t.c. When the time comes for the young folks to start enjoying sex in their homes, they do not have the practical knowledge and discretion needed to handle this new phase of life.

Therefore, this topic will run in series to help young couples solve some initial sexual problems they might face as young couples and it will make a good read for older couples who want a new beginning in their relationships. Please go through each series for better understanding.

SERIES 1

THE FIRST NIGHT

(Proverb 5:18)

It is always believed that first impression matters much. The way you handle your first night matters so much. You have a blessed fountain, a fountain sanctified and given to you by the lord, God, your father. This fountain is given to your for enjoyment as you rejoice with your new “honey”. This first night is a blessed night of light, deliverance and joy that lasts till eternity.

Like in the beginning of any great endeavour, you need a great deal of wisdom. This is the first night of building your own home. Obedience is the only key that keeps your home on the rock for life and eternity. This night is a night of unveiling your nakedness and that of your spouse. You have been beholding the beauty/ handsomeness of each other undercover before now. Tonight, you want to behold each other as God created you naked.

The first night, you both will go to the beginning where nakedness brought joy and satisfaction to the men and his wife. This journey this night required patience and understanding which are rooted in deep love. It follows suit the following steps;-

Step 1:- husband, patiently unveil your wife of everything called cover. Remove “everything she is wearing. Some sisters at this point are embarrassed so , be patient with your wife. Some men rush into this, in order to enter into the sexual act, it is not good, do not rush, she is yours forever. Take time to examine every part you uncover and appreciate the lord for each.

Step2:- now verbalized your thought. You can say something like” i accept you as you are, you are a part of me and i will always love you. You are a gift to me, babe girl you are good”. What can you say about your wife in relation to you? Say them now with wisdom.

Step3:- the wife then in turn uncovers her husband. I mean remove everything called cover or traditional material for beauty or makeup if you are a virgin, you probably have not seen many various sizes of penis before, so , accept in love whatever you see and appreciate the lord for it.

Step4:- the wife should hold her husband and verbalizes her thoughts. You can say something like “oh! I accept you as mine. I’m a part of you, you are mine for life and i accept you as a gift from the lord”

Step5:- hold yourselves in love

Step6:- you can immediately seal up your union with sex. Your oneness starts from your acceptance, open heartedness and sexual intercourse, rejoice with the wife of your youth ....... let her breasts satisfy you at all times.

Moreover, by now the man must have successfully inserted his penis into your virginal. This means you “know” your spouse.

The man should take time to allow his penis to make some movement. This contact will produced sweet sensation for the two.

It is worthy to note here that both or either party can be tired after the stressful wedding ceremony, it is suggested that rest is important and the couple should have their rest”. The act should last for life because marriage is “till death do us part”.

The Art of Seduction

The Art of Seduction

The immediate temptation of anyone who hears the word seduction is to quickly associate it with love – making; the art of seduction is by no means the only purpose to which seduction can be put.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, there is something in our nature as human beings that make us, naturally, seducers. Many people will hold the assertion in dispute; but a moment of careful thought is likely to make us see seduction in the right perspective. By my standard, the business person who dons his best attire on the occasion of a business appointment likely to turn his or her fortunes around for good is practicing seduction. The politician who uses banners, posters, audio – visual interviews, and rhythmical campaign slogans; the advertiser who uses hilarious radio jingles to advertise his products; the movie house that whets our appetite with bits and pieces of gripping scenes in its movies; the car manufacturer who designs his car to look sleek, solid and heavenly; the product manufacturer who wraps his products in colourful packages; and many more other people are all busily practicing The Art of Seduction.

By using methods that had been successfully employed by charmers like Don Juan, Giovanni Casanova, Marylyn Monroe, napoleon Bonaparte, Cleopatra, Bathsheba, Bill Clinton, Benjamin Disraeli, Rasputin, Madonna, and our Goodluck Jonathan the author shows us how we can wield influence that continues to keep us in demand for as long as we live.

Our Almighty Father, also use the seduction method through our lord Jesus Christ who bought us from the camp of the evil one by shedding HIS blood on the cross of Calvary. He gave us life in abundance and we now have access to God through our lord Jesus Christ. Through him, man now has access to God.

Should we use this art, this secret, for man or material? This question is best answered by the man or woman who decides to learn and use The Art of Seduction. I will suggest we apply this principle to our everyday life and in whatever capacity we find ourselves to touch a life effectively and positively for God.

As for me, I find this book interesting and a lifetime treasure that must not be out of sight. I have started to apply it to my life. Look for the book, read and start to apply it to your life.

Adeyeye Kayode

Book reviewer

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